I was humbled to be able to meet this remarkable woman at the Instigator Experience (a conference on turning your big idea into a reality....http://www.theinstigatorexperience.com/). I can't recommend her first book enough (http://www.amazon.com/Loose-Screws-Skinned-Knees-Opportunities-ebook/dp/B008QQ1RXE/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1397677732&sr=8-1&keywords=care+tuk) . She tells her story of fighting cancer since the age of 19, to recovering from being hit by drunk driver, adopting two kids, and still flying all over the world helping people. My only regret is that she lives so far away and I can easily see her more often. I can't wait for next book that she is working on right now. Love you, Care.
All day, I have been struggling with what to write about my mom and her fight with cancer. Her strength and courage through her laryngectomy has been so inspiring. I hope one day to articulate what this experience has meant to me. She is one of my heroes. I hope to be half the parent she has been.
Love you, Mom.
My uncle Bob has been fighting brain cancer for close to 2 years. At this point, all he can verbalize is "yes" or "no". I will cherish the hour we spent watching and laughing at The Price Is Right. My Aunt offered the beautiful advice below in his place.
"Stay positive even in the negative times. Take a day, an hour, or a minute at a time if you need to, but try not to worry about the future. Everything can change in a heartbeat, or so slow you don't remember time passing.
You need to feel comfortable with the doctor that is treating your loved one. If you aren't comfortable, get another opinion. Then , get involved with his disease. Learn as much as you can, allow the family members to be as involved as they want to be, get involved with a support group if there is one, and welcome anyone who is willing to help.
Let them listen to you, hug you when you need it, give you what they feel comfortable to give you, and prayers. The power of prayer cannot be discounted, both for the patient and the family members.
And say what you want to say while you have time with your loved one. Even if you repeat it a thousand times. "
"Mom has cancer". Those words are burned into my memory. I still remember standing outside of work in the crisp March morning air as millions of thoughts swirled about in my mind. All the fears and doubts assaulting me from all sides. Unfortunately, the experience has repeated multiple times with other relatives and friend's families. Each successive pronouncement does not lessen the hurt or ease the burden of the news. I may not have the right words but I can offer a platform who those who might.
I present you the "Say It a Thousand Times" portrait series. Each individual is fighting or fought cancer and offers their own advice to those just diagnosed. The title comes from my Aunt Nancy who is faithfully caring for my uncle who is fighting brain cancer.